I have a problem saying the H word. I've been married to T for 10 months and I still don't say it. Sometimes I refer to T as my boyfriend. It's not that I'm ashamed to be married to him - quite the opposite, marrying T was my best decision ever!- it's just that the H word implies a certain amount of "grown-upness" that I just don't have. I'm not old enough to have an H word, am I? I couldn't call T my F word while we were engaged either. It just seems weird. I know some girls get all excited that they get say the F or H word as soon as they acquire one, but really, it was / is just too weird for me.
I kinda feel like getting married was my induction to the real world. Yes, I had lived outside of my parent's home and had a job and paid all my own expenses before I married T, but actually getting married was such a grown-up thing to do. And I still don't feel grown up! I feel 17!
So maybe my problem is not the H word. Maybe, my actual problem is this "growing up" business and that problem is manifested by avoiding the H word.
Does anyone else have trouble saying the H word or growing up?
When we walk past our car parked on the street I always wave and say, "Hi, The Car!" (P.S. Street parking anywhere in Southern California = ggrrrrrr.) Two days ago I waved to T inside the apartment and said, "Hi, The Husband!" just like I say "Hi, The Car!" It was strange.
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"Hi, the Daughter!" Like saluting H&RB, or BSA. Do you get the urge to salute T? ha ha
ReplyDeleteI do not like the H word. It just sounds too formal. I would rather introduce Paul and my best friend. People get it, and it feels better saying it. To tell you the truth, every now and then I wake up and see my babies and think "where did they come from!"
ReplyDeleteI feel like I have had to be grown up ever since I was very young. But marrying Paul let me be a kid again. I don't have to work and there is someone around to take care of me. It is a grown up decision to get married, but in many ways being married is like being young because you are back in a family unit and responsibilities are shared.
Harm, you really were very grown up in high school. I was remembering Old Blue the other day... Anyway, I like the idea of introducing T as "best friend" instead of the H word. I'll see how it feels to phrase it that way. Where DID those babies come from?! Happy one year baby O!
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